As kids, a lot of people idealize marriage, thinking that a wedding ring and a signed piece of paper will give them the “happily ever after” that they need. And then they end up dissapointed, dreading it, because they picked the wrong partner at the wrong time.
I am one of the few fortunate people who found the right person at the right time. There is no better feeling than being in the middle of a random conversation and saying “Well my wife…”. It gives me a sense of belonging, a sense of “Someone in this world loves me enough to call me her husband.” Someone loves me enough to have made a promise, a commitment to stick with me through the good, but more so through the bad.
I found my wife in the strangest of places – An online video game. On the 24th of May 2017 we officially became a long-distance relationship. Fast forward 474 days, and here I sit, a loving woman by my side, two kids, with a third on the way.
This isn’t what I had planned with my life. It’s much better than that.
Marriage isn’t about being easy. It isn’t about just remembering the memories, anniversaries, etc. It’s about the cuddles at 2 in the morning after waking up from a bad dream. It’s about turning around and watching her awkwardly smile and stare at you. It’s about driving in the car, and feeling her hand reach for yours. It’s about sitting on the couch and watching your kids go from playing to fighting. It’s about the hugs from behind when you least expect it. It’s about remembering that marriage isn’t a piece of paper, but a commitment. It’s about both parties giving 100%, and stepping up when the other one needs it.
I love you, I’ve loved you since the day I first heard your voice.
We have had our bad days. We have had our really bad days. But we got through them, and we will get through whatever else gets thrown our way.
Forever and always and after
